Pregnancy and Birth: Stats, Stories, and Everything You Need to Know About Labor and Delivery

Pregnancy and birth are as unique as each woman’s journey. Every experience is different, and that’s part of what makes motherhood so beautiful and diverse. Whether you're expecting your first baby, preparing for a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean), or just curious about others' experiences, this post has everything you need to know. This guide provides you with birth statistics, personal stories, and empowering information to help you navigate your journey with confidence.

But before we dive into the details, I want to address something crucial—every birth is natural. Whether you have an epidural, go for a C-section, or deliver without any pain intervention, every single birth is natural. Why? Because the most natural thing in the world is growing a human. You’ve created life within you, shared your blood, nutrients, and energy. That is the epitome of natural. So if you’ve ever felt judged or stigmatized about the way your birth unfolded—whether you had a cesarean, were induced, or chose pain medications—let me tell you this, YOU have had a natural birth. You’ve grown a human being with your body, and that is nothing short of miraculous.

Let’s get into the real and raw details about types of birth, pain management during labor, and more!

Quick Stats on Pregnancy and Birth

Before we dig into the details, here are the quick stats for you:

• 29% of moms used a midwife

• 71% had an OBGYN

• 56% of moms loved giving birth

• 57% of moms were induced

• 73% found out the baby’s gender

• 48% used gas for pain management during labor

• 78% opted for an epidural

• 14% had an episiotomy

• 8% had gestational diabetes

• 8% conceived via IUI/IVF

• Labor lengths:

  • 24% less than 5 hours

  • 22% 5-10 hours

  • 26% 10-20 hours

  • 28% more than 20 hours

• 63% had vaginal deliveries

• 34% had C-sections

• 3% experienced a VBAC

• 67% found birthing classes helpful

Midwife vs. OB/GYN: Which One Should You Choose for Your Birth?

One of the first big decisions expectant moms make is choosing between a midwife or an OB/GYN. 29% of The Motherhood chose a midwife, while 71% went with an OBGYN. Now, both options have their merits, but let me tell you from personal experience—having a midwife made a world of difference for me. During my second pregnancy, I felt empowered and supported. My pregnancy had complications (gestational diabetes and a possible VBAC), but my midwife’s approach was tailored to my needs. Midwives are known for providing more personalized, one-on-one care. If you’re unsure which route to go, remember that it’s all about what feels right for YOU.

If you’re leaning toward an OBGYN, that’s also a solid choice. OBGYNs offer a broader range of medical expertise, especially if you're dealing with high-risk factors or complications. Either way, you’ve got options, and each option provides the care and expertise you deserve.

Birth Experience: Love It or Leave It?

When it comes to how women feel about giving birth, 56% of The Motherhood loved giving birth, and 44% didn’t. This is such an important distinction. Loving the outcome of giving birth doesn’t necessarily mean you loved the experience itself. It’s okay to feel empowered and excited, but also okay to admit that labor might not be your favourite part of the journey. If you are preparing for your first baby I want you to feel encouraged that you may enjoy it (sounds strange I know…). I want all mothers to enter into birth feeling empowered and strong rather than afraid. 

Here’s the truth: some moms love the experience, feeling a sense of strength and triumph, while others would rather skip labor and go straight to holding their bundle of joy. And guess what? Both feelings are valid. What matters is how you feel after—you made it through, you gave birth, and you’re doing an amazing job.

Induced Labor: What You Need to Know

Induced labor is something 57% of moms experienced. But it’s important to note that induction can look different depending on the method used. Whether it’s a Foley Balloon, Cervidex, or the oxytocin drip, the goal is to kick-start labor if it hasn’t started spontaneously.

Some women find that being induced helps them plan for childcare, manage work, or simply gives them peace of mind knowing when they’ll be headed to the hospital. But while induction has its benefits, the pain management during labor can feel more intense for some.

If you’ve been induced or are considering it, just know that you’re not alone in your experience. It’s a common part of the birthing process, and you’re strong enough to handle whatever comes your way. Ask your OBGYN or Midwife about different options so you enter into birth feeling educated.

Gender Reveal: To Know or Not to Know?

73% of moms chose to find out the gender of their baby. Some women choose to keep the surprise until birth, but many others want to know early so they can start planning and bonding with their little one. There’s no “right” choice here—it’s all about what works best for you.

Some moms even mentioned that they’ve done both over the years! Best of both worlds, right?

More questions? Check out my post about Finding Out Gender!

Pain Management During Labor: Gas, Epidural, and More

When it comes to pain management during labor, every woman’s experience is different. 48% of moms used gas, and 78% opted for an epidural. For some, the gas was a lifesaver—helping them focus on their breathing and stay calm. Personally, I loved the gas, but many mamas have said it was a waste. It’s fascinating how different interventions can affect everyone so uniquely.

Epidurals are another popular choice. But here’s the thing—epidurals don’t work the same for everyone. Some moms found they didn’t work at all, while others found them to be too effective and numbed the wrong parts of the body. (Can you imagine?)

It’s all about finding what works for YOU. Whether it’s gas, an epidural, or even using a natural method like breathing techniques, YOU get to decide how to manage your labor pain. I encourage women to also speak with their Midwife or OBGYN about the after effects of different pain management medications to help you enter birth informed.

Episiotomy: What You Need to Know

Only 14% of moms in The Motherhood had an episiotomy. For those who don’t know, an episiotomy is a surgical cut made during delivery to help widen the vaginal opening. Some mamas may need one, but others go through labor without the need for an episiotomy.

I personally had a third-degree episiotomy, and while it wasn’t the most pleasant experience, the recovery wasn’t as bad as I had anticipated. I actually found it less painful than my C-section recovery. Whether you have an episiotomy or not, remember: you are powerful and your body is doing incredible things. Again, knowledge is power, so anticipating this as a possible outcome will help you feel empowered rather than fearful. 

Gestational Diabetes: What’s It Like?

8% of moms experience gestational diabetes (GD). It can be exhausting, especially since many women feel like they’re doing everything “right” in terms of diet and exercise and still develop GD. It’s mentally and physically draining to monitor blood sugar levels and stay on top of meal planning. But know this: GD doesn’t define you. If you’re going through it, you’re strong, and you’ve got this.

Personally, I found the mental load of managing GD to be the hardest part, especially without consistent support from the healthcare team (My midwife and friends were more supportive than the healthcare team). But that’s something I’ve learned many other GD mamas share—they wanted more consistency and support from the medical system surrounding GD.

IVF and IUI: Your Journey to Motherhood

8% of moms in The Motherhood conceived through IUI or IVF. For these mamas, the journey to becoming pregnant took a lot of persistence, patience, and love. The process might involve many ups and downs, but your strength in pursuing parenthood through IUI or IVF is nothing short of inspiring. Check out Kate's journey through IVF here!

Whether you’re considering IVF or have already gone through it, know that your experience is valid and deserving of recognition. You’ve worked so hard to get here.

Labor Lengths: From Quick to Long

Labor lengths vary widely. Here’s the breakdown:

• 24% had labor lasting less than 5 hours

• 22% had labor lasting 5-10 hours

• 26% had labor lasting 10-20 hours

• 28% had labor lasting more than 20 hours

It’s true—labor can feel like it lasts forever, but no matter how long it takes, you are doing something incredible. You are bringing a new life into this world. The inconsistency of time is important to note - try not to become frustrated with your body if your labor is not meeting the exact expectations laid out from your birthing class.

Types of Birth: Vaginal, C-Section, and VBAC

When it comes to the types of birth, the stats show that 63% of moms had a vaginal delivery, 34% had C-sections, and only 3% experienced a VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean). If you’re considering a VBAC, I understand that the decision can feel overwhelming. There’s still a lot of stigma and misinformation surrounding VBAC, but the truth is, with the right support and care, a VBAC can be a beautiful, empowering experience. Whether you choose a vaginal birth, C-section, or VBAC, YOU are a warrior. Your strength and resilience are what matter most.

Birthing Classes: Are They Worth It?

If you’re wondering whether birthing classes are worth it, the majority of moms in The Motherhood say YES. 67% found birthing classes helpful. They prepare you for what’s to come, teach you techniques for pain management, and help you feel more confident in the process. Plus, they’re a great way to bond with your partner and get ready for the big day.

Conclusion: Own Your Journey

Whatever your birth looks like—whether you opt for a VBAC, a C-section, or a vaginal birth, know that you are doing an incredible thing. The birth process is deeply personal, and there’s no “right” way to bring your baby into the world. Whether your labor is quick or long, whether you have a midwife or an OBGYN, you are a force. Your story matters, and your journey is worth celebrating. Keep sharing your experiences, because the more we lift each other up, the stronger we all become.

Final Thoughts

If you found this post helpful, share it with other expecting mamas, and don’t forget to check out our other birth-related articles for more insights and empowering information. Stay informed, stay strong, and stay confident in your birth journey! 🌸