Sleep Training: It’s Not Just About Letting Your Baby Cry

Let’s talk about sleep training. It’s one of those topics that can get parents all fired up. Some people hear “sleep training” and picture a baby crying for hours with no one to comfort them, while others swear by it as the key to a peaceful, well-rested home. But here’s the deal: sleep training is not about letting your baby cry it out for hours. It’s about creating a routine that works for your baby and your family.

Does Your Baby Need Sleep?

Absolutely! Babies need sleep for their growth, brain development, and overall health. But does that mean they need to follow a strict schedule? Not necessarily. Every baby is different, and what works for one family may not work for another. However, in North American society, where everything is scheduled, having a predictable sleep routine can actually make life easier—especially for working parents.

For me, as someone who works a typical 9-5 job, and a personality that thrives on routine, I feel more confident knowing when my baby will sleep, when they’ll be in a good mood, and when I can get some quiet time. With two full-time working parents in the household, a full night’s sleep is honestly magical. It helps me feel less stressed and more patient during the day.

Sleep Training is Not About “Training”

I don’t love the term "sleep training" because it sounds like you’re forcing your baby to do something they’re not ready for. In reality, sleep training is about helping your baby develop healthy sleep habits. It’s about creating a calm environment where your baby can feel safe, comfortable, and fall asleep independently. It’s not about ignoring their needs—it’s about supporting them in building good sleep habits.

And let’s not forget: when your baby can sleep through the night, you get more quality time with them during the day. Less fussing from overtiredness means more energy for fun, interactive moments.

Why I’m Writing This

The reason I’m writing this post is because I was met with a lot of dirty looks when I mentioned I was sleep training my children. I’ve also heard other parents say they’re “sleep training” and, when I asked about their method or routine, they simply responded with, “We just let them cry until they fall asleep.” That really bothered me! Sleep training is not easy—it requires research, patience, and sometimes even support from a consultant. It’s a commitment from the entire family, not just a quick fix.

Wrapping Up

At the end of the day, sleep training is about creating healthy sleep habits for your baby, in a way that works for your family. It’s not about letting them cry it out or neglecting their emotional needs. It’s about finding a method that fits your baby’s personality and your family’s lifestyle—whether that involves some gentle support, a structured routine, or even seeking guidance from a consultant. So, if you’re sleep training, do it with confidence and know that there’s no one right way. No judgment, no guilt—just what helps everyone get the sleep they need.

Happy sleeping, Motherhood!